"It is natural that by knowing what you do not want, you are able to clarify what you do want; and there is nothing wrong with identifying a problem before beginning to look for a solution.
But many people, over time, become problem oriented rather than solution oriented, and in their examination and explanation of the problem, they continue the perpetuation of the problem.
That which is like unto itself, is drawn—so tell the story you want to live and you will eventually live it."
This advice is so sound and so universal. We are all inclined to identify things in our lives that we do not want. This contrast is helps us define what it is we actually do want. However, often we unknowingly make a sport of out dissecting, reliving, rehashing and re-explaining the things in our lives that are causing us grief. We tell our families. Then our friends when we see them. We stew about it as we drive or wash the dishes. We toss and turn at night, reliving the frustration, feeling wronged or defeated or whatever. We memorize it and to our brains, it feels as though we've lived out the 'problem' a thousand times.
The point is, we spend a lot of time in the space of the 'problem' itself.
What the quote above clarifies, is that only from the level of the solution can we begin to attract the steps/thoughts/ideas needed to arrive at the solution.
'Tell yourself the story you want to live and you will eventually live it.'
To help make this idea approachable, here is how this looks like for me in practice:
I'll identify a problem and immediately, my primal brain invites me to freak about it:
Oh no, this is bad. I gotta fix this some how. But how? Nothing is working? I've tried everything. What if I can't fix it? What if I keep running into problems like this?...... and on and on.
But from the level of the solution my thoughts would go more like this:
I'm SO glad I figured that out! This part of my life is so much more effortless now that I implemented that solution. I love how it feels to know I was capable of finding a solution to this. I knew the next steps would be revealed to me! Ah, what sweet relief I feel knowing things always work out as they are supposed to. I'm so grateful I got curious and creative instead of negative and close minded about this. I'm standing in such a better place now, for walking this path and figuring this out.
I know it sounds almost too good to be true....to imagine the story you'd like to be living and to start telling yourself that story now.
But I assure you, the moment we enter that headspace, and exit the trap of complaining and negativity, solutions and synchronicities become attracted to us and practically beg for our attention.
The stories we tell ourselves are the answers we need to solve our problems.
So make sure the story you're telling yourself is from the level of the solution you desire ♥︎